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My mother used to say “It is what it is.” She said it so much that it became rather like fingernails running down a long chalkboard when I heard it. Almost simultaneously, she would quietly recite the Serenity prayer, “God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.” Each time I heard either phrase, I imagined her throwing her hands in the air as if she was surrendering and it infuriated me because I wanted to have more control than that.
For anyone with ‘control’ issues – accepting our inability to create the reality we want to have is challenging. It is imperative therefore, to learn acceptance. It took me decades to realize that courage and determination were instrumental in learning how to ‘accept’ that I am powerless to change some things; other people for example.
Some of us spend way too much time thinking about how the world or people in it ‘should’ be or what ‘could’ have been done and far too little time seeing things as they ARE so that we can make a difference where it is possible.
If I have a yard sale planned and it is raining – ANY time I spend lamenting about the rain and its effect on my plans is a WASTE of ENERGY. I can be disappointed for sure but anything outside of that is non-acceptance. If I’ve made a mistake and feel embarrassed or ashamed, moving forward from it requires acceptance – not avoidance of what is.
And… in order to change anything we have the power to change – we must see it clearly AS IT IS – not worse or better than it is – in order to change it accurately and reliably. If we want to turn sadness into something different, we have to stop resisting the sadness and accept its presence. The first step to anything is quite simply…
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