Sharing 365 life lessons, tips, or hacks; the things that make life easier, happier, and more productive. I hope you’ll follow along and find them helpful too.
Believe in Yourself
As a therapist, I see lots of people who are challenged with this ability. When our self-esteem is damaged or underdeveloped, it can be quite difficult to have faith in your ability to achieve success. I’d like to suggest that success is relative and that the only person whose opinion matters – is yours!
Our self-doubt is often a seed that was planted in childhood either by parents, peers, or society. I’ve heard children make the comment “I’m trying” and an adult in the vicinity says “no you’re not” or “not hard enough” which, is hard to reconcile if you feel as if you’ve given it all you know to give. Unfortunately, these patterns often continue into adulthood and become hard held beliefs that are challenging to reframe.
We, as individuals, intrinsically know if we have given it our all or not. We KNOW, regardless of what others comment – even as children, we know. What we have to do is believe that if we think we’ve given it everything there is to give – it was ENOUGH, regardless of whether or not it met an outside standard. If we gave it our all… there wasn’t any more to give and we need to learn to simply believe that as a fact.
When we don’t have an established belief in our ability to succeed, we become afraid of trying because our culture promotes a fear of failure. One thing is for sure – if you don’t try – you will not succeed so the first rule is to TRY. The second rule of thumb is to assess your willingness to work for the success you want. When we say “I can’t” – most of the time we are saying that we don’t want to do the work required in order to become successful.
Almost anyone with dexterity can learn to play the piano – this fact is illustrated by all of the young people who perform at recitals all over the world. It’s only those who diligently work at their craft that become proficient however. Somewhere along the line, those people believed in themselves.
It’s the ‘Little Engine That Could’ mantra… “I think I can, I think I can…” that makes the difference and becomes an overall mental health – healthy perspective. If you don’t already, make an effort to grow your esteem and learn to …
Believe in yourself.
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