Sharing 365 life lessons, tips, or hacks; the things that make life easier, happier, and more productive. I hope you’ll follow along and find them helpful too.
Find a Therapist
I don’t mean this suggestion to be self servicing in any manner. I have always touted the benefit of having a confidant, professional or otherwise. The difference between a psychotherapist and a best friend is that the latter most often cannot be as objective.
Objectivity is important because someone needs to call us out on our shit. Not that assertively of course, but hold us to seeing ourselves honestly when we are tempted to lie to ourselves. They are the ones that have no emotional connection to the outcome of your decisions and therefore, can give you an honest perspective.
Therapists offer perspective – a chance to see the forest AND the trees – so to speak. Sometimes, we are so caught up in our own scenario that we cannot get a full view of the situation at hand. Other times, everything gets tangled and a therapist can helps us pull pieces apart so that they can be seen clearly.
One of the benefits of therapy is to discover that you are not alone. Not that the therapist tells you specifics about other people in similar circumstances, but they are often able to share general information they have collected over time. Finding someone who can relate to our struggles has great benefit.
One of the challenges about therapy is making sure to find a therapist that is a good fit for your personality and issues. In many ways, a therapist becomes a kind of friend. Not the kind you have dinner with or invite over for birthdays but the kind that knows you and your vulnerabilities but continues to support and offer advice without judgment. The therapeutic relationship enhances healing opportunities immensely
When I think of the price of therapy, I think about the roof on my house. If it leaked, I wouldn’t spare any available expense to fix it lest the problem gets worse and ruins the entire home. I’ve heard people excited that they bought the newest flat screen television, iPad, or cell phone; booked a cruise, a weekend in New York City, or Disney yet they deny their ability to cover the cost of a few counseling sessions. These choices speak only to the order of priority of mental health and well-being. Many challenges are addressed in a matter of those same costs even if insurance is unavailable.
Nothing is more important than your emotional and physical health – without it, your best life is just out of reach so just like you make the effort to find a good dentist, a good attorney, and a good accountant, spend some energy and…
Find a therapist.
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