Sharing 365 life lessons, tips, or hacks; the things that make life easier, happier, and more productive. I hope you’ll follow along and find them helpful too.
Perhaps the single most important aspect of personal growth and development – the cornerstone of authentic happiness – is the ability to be introspective. The willingness to observe one’s own emotional and mental processes demonstrates courage in many cases… sometimes, there’s a lot going on in that brain.
The 5 W’s
When making the effort to look within, it’s important to be curious – not judgmental – about the five W’s… Who? What? When? Where? And Why? It goes like this:
Who is triggering me?
What was the behavior?
When did it happen?
Where were we?
Why is it a trigger?
Who are the people of my tribe?
What do I like the most about them?
When do I feel the most supported?
Where do I feel it [in my body]?
Why is it important to me?
You may not ask the same questions about each and every situation. Sometimes, you also want to ask How? How much control do I truly have?
Introspection develops self-awareness and self-awareness is necessary for growth and development in both your behavior and in your spirit. As we ask questions and seek awareness, it’s important to be an observer, not a judge. If you discover something that you don’t like, ask more questions about how you might change it and take action.
If you get stuck, ask for professional assistance. Sometimes an objective fresh perspective is all that is standing in the way of discovery.
If you’re looking for more joy, for better relationships, and for increased self-awareness, start with the effort to …
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