It teases our desire to be winners and keeps us coming back for a second chance and/or to defend our position as champion;
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Play a Board Game
I know people who get together for the sheer purpose of playing board games on a weekly basis and what they have in common is an ability to have fun! Sure, some people are uber competitive but overall, playing an adult level board game (as opposed to Candyland or Monopoly Jr.).
As a kid, the neighborhood girls had a running Monopoly game going all summer long – so much so that I’m not a huge fan of the game these days but my family members get it out at any large overnight gathering and have somehow – turned it into a drinking game. There’s usually a lot of high-fiving and deep groans as property and money change hands. Fun.
These days, The Settlers of Catan is a family favorite along with Ticket to Ride – both playable with just three players. They use a fair amount of strategy but luck plays into card draws and dice rolls… disrupting even the best strategic players. For two players, I know people who have a lot of fun with Code Names and the couple of times I’ve played, it was challenging in a thoughtful kind of way.
The first Backgammon board dates back to Persia over 5000 years ago and ever since there is a history of board games in every culture. It seems to satisfy the human need to socialize, strategize, and intellectualize. It teases our desire to be winners and keeps us coming back for a second chance and/or to defend our position as champion; apparently basic elements of the human experience.
What is your go to when you …
Play a board game??
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If it is not life changing, a national security issue, or harming anyone – why not just … let it go? How many ego wins does one person need to feel big or secure?
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Let someone else be right
Or, I could say… let go of trying to prove your point. I know for some people – this will be a big challenge. You know – our ego simply gets in the way at times. Ok, maybe more than ‘at times’… and it’s necessary to realize that’s all it is – an ego.
I’m not sure the proportion, but a HUGE percentage of arguments escalate simply because someone is determined to be – right. We need to win. When both (or all) parties in the conversation determine that ‘they’ must prevail, it is likely that someone will eventually be verbally beaten into submission; ending the exchange with feelings of defeat and a sense of failure because they were unsuccessful proving their position.
I ask … “why?”
If we have the knowledge, or perhaps proof to substantiate our point… why must we shove it down the proverbial throat of those who don’t know? Or, perhaps have a valid – but different – perspective? Why is it so necessary to demonstrate the lack of knowledge in someone we converse with?
If it is not life changing, a national security issue, or harming anyone – why not just … let it go? How many ego wins does one person need to feel big or secure? If absolutely necessary… Google it and quietly validate the question/answer for yourself but keep it close… allowing someone else to believe what they believe; assuming it doesn’t overstep the above referenced boundaries.
I wonder how many challenges you’ll save yourself from if you were to …
Let someone else be right.
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